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Therapy for the Generation That Raised Themselves
and
Now Regrets Their Parenting Choices!


 

Hi, I'm Patricia

Gen X Therapist for those in their 40s, 50s, & 60s 

Emotional Survivalist 

Professional Untangler of Family Chaos 

Bringer of Anxiety, Burnout, and Trauma Relief NY & CT

 

Welcome to the part where I share my credentials:

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  • Bachelor of Fine Arts in Acting (don't ask)

  • Master of Science in Mental Health Counseling

  • Licensed in New York and Connecticut,

  • Specializing in Anxiety, Burnout, and Trauma. (Check, Check, and Check.)

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But let’s be real - you’re not just here for a résumé.  

You want to know if I get you and if I will help or waste your time? 

 

                               Let's Dig In, Shall We..

 

  • I’m the kind of therapist who remembers the name you picked (Cobra Commander) for the dog you never got—because your brother had allergies, asthma, and he is the Golden Child.

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  • I get why certain sounds and smells immediately take you to the people and places you try hard not to think about.

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  • I will understand why a call from an unfamiliar number makes you think of hospital stays and legal decisions you aren't ready to make.

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  • I will ask bold questions, the ones that help you name what you’ve been avoiding; the questions that shine a light on what you keep doing out of guilt, fear, or that good old Gen X sense of obligation.

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  • What I will do is sit with you in the life you think is a mess, ask questions based on your reality, and help you explore the patterns you’re tired of repeating.

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  • Together, we’ll dive into why you think, feel, and react the way you do—and how those responses may have helped you survive once, but are holding you back now.​​

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  • I won't be your bestie who co-signs everything you do; that is not the job. I’m your co-pilot for the deep dive into you—so you can reclaim your time, your energy, your voice, and your damn life!

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If you're wondering whether I am a real Gen Xer or a 30-something Who googled Gen X, Hose water and Neglect,
Here are a few random facts and photos  to prove I'm the real deal:

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1. At age 7, when Purple Rain came out, I thought the chorus of “When Doves Cry” was about me because '70s and ’80s parenting needs to be studied hard.
 

2. Sesame Street, The Muppet Show, and Eddie Murphy shaped my humor (and probably my moral compass).
 

3. I love both authentic and colonized tacos.
 

4. “The Empire Strikes Back” is peak storytelling—fight me.
 

5. I make dope Mix Tapes/Playlists and still use the word Album instead of Vinyl. 
 

6. I’m the person you want on your trivia team (especially if there's an 80s and 90s music or movie round).

7. I say
“Are you f*cking kidding me?” a lot, for someone with a voluminous vocabulary.

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8. I sing “My Favorite Things” from The Sound of Music as a coping mechanism when my Anxiety is on fuego- Yes, I’m a therapist who experiences anxiety, most of us do!

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9. I’m a strong believer in therapists having a therapist!

 

10. I became a Philadelphia Eagles fan after reading “The Silver Linings Playbook, “ which is about middle-aged mental health and way better than the movie!

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11. I can’t look at the back of a milk carton without thinking about kidnappers.

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12. I survived being taught by Nuns in the late 80s and early 90s. They didn't understand the weird, nerdy black girl at the back of the class, reading Bloom County and Calvin and Hobbes.

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Card Carrying Gen X Therapist

Unlocked and Verified! â€‹

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You are here because you are ready to stop hiding in your car, screaming into pillows, and white-knuckling your way through life!  You will release stress, learn the world will not fall apart if you say “No” to the things that don't bring you joy, and start getting curious, being courageous, and improve the most important relationship you’ll ever have: The one with yourself.

 

Let’s go!

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Patricia Valencia Mental Health Counseling, PLLC

All Rights Reserved. ​

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